My girlfriend has been doing this with her daughters since the oldest one was about 4 years old. I'd always thought it was such a good ritual, yet never found the time to do it myself...until now.
About a week ago, for our nightly ritual, the hubs would say his good night to the babe and then I would come in, crawl in her bed and we would share - "What was your favorite part of today?" and "What was your least favorite part of your day?"
One evening, I was able to share with her, "My least favorite part of the day was when I yelled at you. I really don't like yelling at you...it makes me sad. But it also makes me upset when you can't listen to me. Can we both work a little harder?" It felt good to be able to converse and share in that way.